Do you find that orgasm during intimacy or during intercourse is not always easy? You are not alone. Studies show that fewer than 20% of women reach orgasm from vaginal penetration alone. The reason is not you, but the type of stimulation: most women need certain methods that change the experience and make it more exciting.
Pleasure is not accidental — it is the result of techniques that can be learned and tried, whether in penetration or during intercourse.
A large study (Hensel et al., 2021, PLOS One) asked thousands of women about the ways that make them feel more pleasure. The result showed four very common techniques among women: angling, shallowing, pairing, and rocking. In addition, there are extra techniques such as broadening and flexing that can give you a deeper and more varied experience during intimacy or intercourse.
More than two-thirds of women find that changing the angle of the pelvis during penetration or intercourse clearly increases pleasure.
How to try it?
Why might you like it?
Because it gives you control over the place of friction inside the vagina, especially the front wall rich in nerve endings.
Many women describe that pleasure is stronger at the vaginal entrance during intercourse, where the greatest number of nerve endings are concentrated.
How to try it?
Why might you like it?
Because it focuses on a very sensitive area, and gives you pleasurable feelings without the need for deep entry.
Pairing or dual stimulation means combining penetration with clitoral stimulation at the same time during intercourse. It is one of the most effective ways to reach orgasm.
Why might you like it?
Because the clitoris is the main organ of orgasm, and combining internal and external stimulation makes climax closer and more intense.
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Instead of repeated thrusting, try staying inside with rocking or circular movements of the pelvis during intercourse. This method makes the base of the penis rub against the clitoris continuously.
How to try it?
Why might you like it?
Because it gives you a feeling of internal fullness with continuous external stimulation, which doubles the chances of reaching orgasm during intercourse.
Broadening means spreading the pressure over a larger area instead of a single touch. During penetration or intercourse, your partner can use the base to press on the whole vulva, or flat fingers to stimulate the external area at the same time.
How to try it?
Why might you like it?
Because it involves the clitoris, the labia, and the surrounding tissues in the experience, which makes pleasure more comprehensive and may lead to orgasm faster during intercourse.
Flexing is about tightening the pelvic floor muscles (known as Kegel exercises) during penetration or intercourse. When these muscles tighten, they increase friction during penetration and make the feeling stronger.
How to try it?
Why might you like it?
Because it increases the intensity of penetration sensation for you and your partner, and with practice strengthens your inner muscles and gives you longer and stronger orgasms.
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1. Can I reach orgasm from penetration alone?
Yes, some women can, but the percentage is less than 20%. Most women need extra clitoral stimulation or during intercourse.
2. What is the difference between orgasm during external stimulation and orgasm during vaginal penetration?
Orgasm during external stimulation is the most common. The vagina itself is less sensitive, but when combining internal and external stimulation, you may experience a different or “blended” orgasm.
3. What are the best positions to try these techniques?
Angling: Missionary with a pillow under the hips, or doggy style for pelvic tilt.
Shallowing: Cowgirl (woman on top) allows practical control of depth.
Pairing: Spooning position or reverse cowgirl with hand or vibrator on the clitoris
Rocking: Cowgirl with grinding both pelvises together.
Broadening: Positions where both pelvises are close, such as missionary or sitting face to face.
Flexing: Any steady position that allows you to focus on tightening your pelvic floor muscles, such as spooning or cowgirl.
4. Can I try these techniques during masturbation?
Of course. You can use your fingers or sex toys to try angling, shallowing, or flexing yourself.
Orgasm for women is not difficult, but it only requires knowing your body and trying what suits you. Four common techniques — angling, shallowing, pairing, and rocking — help most women increase pleasure. And broadening and flexing add an extra dimension that makes the experience richer whether in penetration or intercourse.
Pleasure is built step by step: with practice, communication, and openness to your body.
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